If you don’t know yourself, you’ll never be able to love yourself with all of your imperfections. It takes knowledge of self to appreciate self. And same goes for any passion, or an identifying factor.
I met one of the most self-loathing Armenians last night. A doctor who you’d think would be intelligent and understand nuances of the differences and sub cultures of our people - yet she seemed to have created a narrative of how enlightened she is, and how bad all other Armenians are. I will not get into details of how she created divisions between Hayastancis, Parskahays and Beirutahays (for non-Armenians you can think of this as saying West Coast, East Coast, and Northern people) and proceeded with saying some of the worst divisive, untruthful, and negative things I’ve ever heard.
I’ve never bit my tongue so hard not to ruin the discussion by just calling her out on her false pretenses, negative rhetoric, and uneducated assumptions about our people. It’s a shame that she had few bad experiences so she generalized and blamed it on all of our culture. I know that self hate is real psychological condition. I’ve heard Tupac Shakur and many black thought leaders talk about this. I know it’s a topic of discussion with Latinos and many other groups as well.
You have to know yourself before you can love yourself. You have to know your culture before you can criticize it. This goes to anybody, from any background - you have to earn your right to criticize yourself. I love all my Armenians. Till death puts me 6 feet under I’m going to work towards uniting us as people, and not forgetting our culture. Never forget who you are and where you come from.
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